tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post5119500611544645174..comments2023-04-10T11:15:39.325-04:00Comments on That Cortnie Girl: Fat Girl RamblingCortniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10671834823344782372noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-84080552053817760612012-01-21T13:02:57.410-05:002012-01-21T13:02:57.410-05:00It's a complicated issue. BUT I happen to thin...It's a complicated issue. BUT I happen to think I'm pretty gorgeous as well, and I love my body. I think writing about this stuff and actually talking about it more just stirred some things up inside my mind. If that makes any sense. I guess that's what happens when you have an unhealthy relationship with food, right? Thank you Jared, I like my squishy tummy most of the time.Cortniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671834823344782372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-86568242273754422682012-01-21T01:43:24.854-05:002012-01-21T01:43:24.854-05:00I'm really sorry my coworker said that to you....I'm really sorry my coworker said that to you. He honestly didn't mean it in a negative way. I completely understand how a comment like that would make you feel though, and will say that he probably shouldn't have said anything..Jaredhttp://www.facebook.com/JaredWerwanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-54208472806495362242012-01-21T01:40:20.142-05:002012-01-21T01:40:20.142-05:00I agree, fat acceptance should be the correct term...I agree, fat acceptance should be the correct term. However, if it were called fat tolerance then I could see there being a problem.Jaredhttp://www.facebook.com/JaredWerwanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-55895337751230154302012-01-21T01:29:12.481-05:002012-01-21T01:29:12.481-05:00Fat acceptance can be quite paradoxical, because i...Fat acceptance can be quite paradoxical, because it does seem contradictory for a person to support fat acceptance, yet want to lose weight. I mean, how many homosexual people out there support gay rights, but want to be heterosexual? I understand how conflicting it can potentially be to support fat acceptance. I often question my own reasons for supporting it. I sometimes feel as though the biggest reason I support fat acceptance is because I am almost exclusively attracted to large women. This does not seem as though it’s a wrong reason to support fat acceptance, but compared to supporting fat acceptance because of the fact that all life is equal it almost seems wrong. <br /> I will admit that absolutely nothing in this world turns me on more than the idea of a woman growing fatter. However, I can’t help but feel disgusted every time I make an Italian BMT with bacon and extra cheese (or any other extremely unhealthy sandwich) for a customer while at work. I’m surely not disgusted because I am thinking about how eating food such as this can make a person fat, but rather because I know eating food like this is extremely unhealthy even if it does not cause weight gain. I myself don’t really watch calories, but I most definitely pay close attention to the amount of cholesterol, sodium, trans fat, etc that is in the food I eat. Thus, because I strive to live a healthy lifestyle, it would then appear to most people that I’m a hypocrite for entertaining the thought of a girl growing fatter intentionally. As much as I’d like to think that I am not a hypocrite, I can’t help but feel conflicted by these seemingly contradictory thoughts. <br /> I’m not sure if what I have said can/will help you in dealing with your own conflict concerning your supporting fat acceptance. However, I do hope that by putting a twist on how supporting fat acceptance can be conflicting will help to put your mind more at ease when mulling over your own conflicting thoughts. In my opinion you’re gorgeous, and I hope you see yourself in a similar light. I also don’t think you should be ashamed of your tummy, because round squishy tummies are much, much cuter than boring old flat ones : ]Jaredhttp://www.facebook.com/JaredWerwanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-67183955555221050712012-01-20T19:54:19.768-05:002012-01-20T19:54:19.768-05:00We should sit and talk sometime, Amanda. For sure....We should sit and talk sometime, Amanda. For sure. You have amazing insight. And how is running? I've always wanted to be able to run but I don't know if I'd be able to! It, for real, is a hot mess up in here, girl. :*Cortniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671834823344782372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-23956498357112324822012-01-20T19:52:22.956-05:002012-01-20T19:52:22.956-05:00Fat Acceptance is a good term in my opinion becaus...Fat Acceptance is a good term in my opinion because the word Fat is being retaken. Like 'bitch' or 'cunt' or 'slut' have been in the past. I think you are onto something with the word 'acceptance' though, I wonder what other word could be used? Hmm..<br /><br />I know it's all about health, though, definitely. My story about my past, not eating and still being bigger, that's because I was trying to prove to people that not everyone is naturally 'normal' sized. With fat-shaming, I think that that personal experience is crucial. Our society is told that fat people eat constantly and have food in their hands always, according to tv shows like Friends (past Monica) or Bridesmaids (the fat friend). <br /><br />I'm really just hoping that I can break peoples' (namely naturally thin peoples') preconceived notions about fat people. I don't want people to see me and immediately think that I am constantly eating or that I'm sad with my body. And you know what I hate the most? When people say, 'No offense, but you look like that big girl from that TV Show' or 'You have such a pretty face'. FUCK THAT! I HAVE A GORGEOUS BODY! :D<br /><br />Thanks for the thoughtful comment, Carly! I'm off to the next one now!Cortniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671834823344782372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-77180362141869153942012-01-20T19:45:14.157-05:002012-01-20T19:45:14.157-05:00Love you! :DLove you! :DCortniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671834823344782372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-75570784196942482042012-01-20T16:38:55.252-05:002012-01-20T16:38:55.252-05:00Oh girl, this is all so true. I'm all about Fa...Oh girl, this is all so true. I'm all about Fat Acceptance. I love that I have big hips and big boobs, but sometimes I worry that I'm Fat Positive because that's the only way other people will accept me. If I somehow prove to them that I'm choosing this, I'm not ashamed. But I just started running and I'm thinking maybe I didn't just do it to be healthy. I think a part of me wants to lose weight, to fit in. But don't I love my body?! It's a mess up here.Amandahttp://the-unseasoned-traveler.tumblr.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-8753220463957089932012-01-20T15:40:18.475-05:002012-01-20T15:40:18.475-05:00Wow, lots of stuff here. I think the key to this i...Wow, lots of stuff here. I think the key to this is health. Not image. Not weight. Just health. People get too wrapped up in obsessing about image and things instead of just worrying about being healthy. For example, I read somewhere that the ranges given for women's body weight by life insurance companies are actually lower than what may be the most healthy for women (as found in some clinical trial somewhere). So life insurance companies want women who are SKINNY, not necessarily HEALTHY. Being "overweight" is not always a bad thing, and a diet should not be about "losing weight." To me, a diet should be that every single day, you try to eat things that are healthy, nourishing, and wholesome. That doesn't mean salad all the time, but it doesn't mean Big Macs, either, because those are both opposite extremes and are NOT healthy when consumed solely. And it shouldn't be about fat or skinny. Sure, if you eat really good things that your body needs, you might lose weight, but that isn't the goal. It's the fact that your body has exactly what it needs, no more and no less. <br /><br />I don't think the term should be "fat acceptance." "Fat" as a term has such negative connotations in our society, and "acceptance" seems to hint at something being bad and we just "accept" it and deal with it but don't really love it. That doesn't seem right. You even mentioned in a blog post that you were severely dieting when you were younger, and were still bigger than other girls. It shouldn't be about that. It should be about going to a physical and hearing that you are healthy, no matter if that means you have rolls or a tummy or a big ass. Some people just naturally have bigger whatevers. I think it is easier for us to love our bodies knowing that they have everything they need to do the things they need to do so that we can live, love, learn, laugh (why do all these things start with l??), rather than worrying about if our bodies have a roll here or don't look great in this shirt or don't have flat six pack abs.<br /><br />But after writing all this, I can be just as hypocritical, because no matter how healthy I know I am (or am not), I still wish my stomach were flatter or arms weren't jiggly or whatever. I don't think it will ever be anything we can fully embrace because of how our culture is built right now. Have you seen the True Life episode on MTV, called something like "I'm Happy Being Fat" ? It was very interesting, and I think you would enjoy watching it and could really analyze it in your blog. MTV sometimes has their episodes for free online. Sorry for rambling on, but I feel strongly about this issue but never really know how to articulate it. Thanks for posting all these things, I really love reading them!carly.germannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02087375584534569764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5058375499163524225.post-74909954667356787652012-01-20T14:37:38.769-05:002012-01-20T14:37:38.769-05:00I know what you mean. I love myself, but I want to...I know what you mean. I love myself, but I want to be healthy and, honestly, I want to be able to wear what I want to without worrying about my fat rolls or my big butt. I wonder what our great-grandmothers would think - women who cooked with lard and ate apple pies and white bread, but who also worked physically and did not drink soda or McDonalds. I just know I need to watch what I eat, not the scale. I need to work out, not whine. But I refuse to put myself under a microscope. Good decisions, healthy bodies. Weight, like my age, is just a number. Love you!Drama Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16753103684024198143noreply@blogger.com